Managing the Holidaze in Recovery!

Here we go again – the holidays are happening with family, friends and festivities. If you or someone close is going through addiction treatment, it’s a time with special challenges. The unfortunate truth is this time of year is hard for everybody. Studies show the majority of people in America are moderately or overwhelmingly stressed during holidays. General finances, gift-giving, and strained family relations are cited as top concerns.

For those in early sobriety, one significant trigger is simply a change in routine. It is necessary to maintain consistent daily discipline of AA/NA meetings, calls to your sponsor and sober network, prayer/meditation, and exercise. Time off work, travel and holiday preparations disrupt the daily pattern supporting solid recovery. Of course, holiday gatherings and family stress put added pressure on the process.

Treatment offers a structured approach for these anticipated challenges. Safety plans are developed by our patients, beginning with a clear inner recognition of discomfort or craving and what can cause it. Aspects of a plan may include learning how to say “no” to a drink or drug in socially comfortable, even casual ways. Sober network phone numbers, location exit strategy, a call to your sponsor beforehand, driving yourself so you can leave when you want – all are actions that can provide preparation and reduce risk.

An inward sense of gratitude at not having to drink or use drugs can help those in recovery recognize that they are taking the best path for their health, sanity, and stress management. Watching others slide out of control can be a helpful reinforcement of your newfound sobriety as well. Perhaps the best bit of experience we can share is that positioning ourselves in a mindset of service will bring serenity into any occasion. Rather than thinking what can I get out of this occasion, ask yourself “What we can I bring to the holiday gathering?” It could be as simple as helping out with the dishes. Shifting our perspective into one of service will destroy any thoughts of sneaking away and having “a sip” of that eggnog.

The holidays are meant to be enjoyed. But knowing relapse traps and preparing for them will ensure that enjoyment is maintained and enhanced – even if you have to eat that fruitcake your aunt brings every year!